The absence of self-importance for me is the key to handling hate. From a young age I learned to untangle myself from my work.
What I do is not me.
I appreciate my insignificance. That is, the fact that I am just another person is both powerful and peaceful. I understand that there are people who will like me, some will even love me, inexplicably.
The opposite is also true.
There are those who will hate, truly hate. The feeling of disgust will consume them at the thought of me.
Yet still, there are those who won’t even care about me. Who won’t even notice me.
The way we deal with hate is by realizing that it needs to exist for us to exist– for us to truly be human, for us to be alive; we have to be both hated and loved. Nothing is real unless it is both hated and loved.
Your insignificance helps in that, no one focuses on you 24/7.
To deal with hate like you do most other things, you keep going…keep striving.
If you are afraid of hate, you must stop now, stop learning, stop trying, and definitely stop succeeding.
Success only amplifies hate.
Guess what, LOVE is also amplified. It is given more openly to those in need of it. Give it to yourself most of all.
Ignore hate as much as you can. Look at it if you must, but know that it does not define you, it has nothing to do with you. Move beyond it, fly above it, but do not stew in it.
Sometimes it feels good to cry, to shout “no one likes me!”
Don’t.
Self pity is seductive, plenty of people love you and care for you. Many will go to war for you. Yet, you are still insignificant, maintain that.
+Pray if you must (to something bigger than you).
+Mediate if that is what you do.
+But, always pick yourself up and keep going.
